At this time of year it is very common for people to feel sad about painful losses in their lives. This includes the deaths of loved ones:
- parents
- siblings
- children
- spouse
- friends
- pets
One remembers that this is the anniversary of the time that they did not have them in their lives during Thanksgiving and Christmas. On some occasions this is merely a transient phenomenon that passes after the holidays, but in many cases the patient requires some kind of individual treatment.
This is called bereavement, which may lead to depression. A number of patients become acutely depressed, stay depressed, and require medication and therapy to handle the situation. Another part of the problem is that people feel they should be happy and joyous during this time and feel angry and upset that they do not feel the good feelings. This is a far more common problem than it was thought to be, and a lot of people do not seek the treatment they need.
Still another problem is that people say, “Well, I will just wait until after the holidays to see if I feel better and not need treatment,” thereby going through the holiday season feeling bad.
I do not believe there is an advantage to suffering unnecessarily for those who need treatment with medication and therapy. They should seek it as quickly as possible. Sometimes talking about the problems and revisiting the losses will be all it takes to put things in perspective, but sometimes people have vegetative signs of depression, and they may require medication intervention.
